Thought for the day

It is almost incredible that so many different peoples
should be attracted to a pattern of love that is essentially Western,
strongly Anglo-Saxon, and relatively new on earth.
Western love, in a manner scarcely to be found in earlier history,
attempts to combine sexual outlet, affectionate friendship
and the procreative familial functions, all in a single relationship.
Romantic attraction is considered to be the adequate,
and indeed the only basis for choosing one’s lifelong partner;
the sexual desires deliberately aroused in courtship
are supposed to be held in check until after marriage;
the sexual drives of both partners are
supposed to be completely and permanently satisfied within marriage
even though there was no testing period beforehand;
and tenderness, mystery, and excitement
are expected to coexist with household cares, child-rearing problems
and the routine of fifteen thousand nights together.
All in all, anthropologists consider it
one of the most difficult human relationships ever attempted;
just as certainly, it is also one of the most appealing.

                            —Morton Hunt The Natural History of Love


6 thoughts on “Thought for the day

  1. Sounds crazy doesn\’t it !
    That\’s basically why the concept of "shacking up" and "try before you buy" became polular in the \’60s in the U.S.

  2. I reprinted the excerpt of your blog. I can’t agree with he author’s idea any more. As he said, Romantic attraction is considered to be the adequate, and indeed the only basis for choosing one\’s lifelong partner. That’s really true! In China, many people enter into the marriage palace just because of the feeling. They may not consider what the love is or what the marriage will bring, especially the young generation. They rashly got married and divorced like a lightning.  

  3. The fact of this matter is well summerised in the last paragrpah. Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh!

  4. I\’m still trying to figure out this thing called love. The author has given a very good explanation. Thanks for posting. 

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